Thursday, September 22, 2011
Reconciling Science & Spirit: The Imperative of Cultivating Cultural Wisdom
Friday, September 24, 2010
The Burden of Should
Sitting quietly in the park, doing nothing, mind wanders to what it should be doing.
“I should be working on that paper due next week.”
“I should have taken those clothes to the cleaners.”
“I should have responded to her email.”
This list of thoughts about what I should be doing continued on and on. I call this compunction the Burden of Should.
The Burden of Should is an infectious meme. It permeates through workaholic societies and can unleash havoc on minds that are predisposed to rumination and anxiety. The Burden of Should is like a nagging mother or overbearing boss: when you least desire, they materialize to remind you of all the things you should be doing. Such incessant and intrusive thoughts of should can rob even the greatest moments of joy and tranquility. Therefore I purpose we do whatever we can to eliminate the Burden of Should from our lives. We need to free ourselves from its constraints and transform the guilt and anxiety it creates into a resolute affirmation and acceptance of our present moment.
To make such a radical break from our inured ways of thinking may require eliminating the word “should” entirely from our vocabulary. Why do I call for such extreme measures? Firstly, the word “should” denotes some action that must be completed because of duty or obligation. In other words, something we have to do but would rather not if given the choice. We often say things like, “I should spend more time studying.” Or, “I should eat healthier.” Such statements express reluctance and unwillingness even if we understand there may be some benefits.
So I ask, why do something if our heart is not truly in it?
Even if there are intellectual justifications for doing something, unless we really care about it, we will never be wholeheartedly engaged in what we are doing. We will be acting entirely on the basis of should with no interest, pride, or love in what we do. I find that a terribly sad way to live. Such half-assed, perfunctory behavior is not only the cause of so much mental strife and dissatisfaction, but also a mockery of the human capacity to live with an engaged and compassionate mind. I believe “should” is only good for breeding discontent. It shifts one’s motivation from intrinsic to extrinsic and diverts attention from the present to all the things we are not currently doing. In my humble opinion, we are better without it.
I’m sure at this point you are saying, “Hold on a second. Aren’t there things that we need to do, that we should do, even if we don’t really want to do them?” My response is both yes and no.
Eliminating should from our lexicon is not a matter of abandoning personal responsibility. I am not advocating that we all become hedonists and do whatever pleases us with complete disregard for later consequences and other’s wellbeing. Nor am I suggesting we stop doing things just because they are inconvenient or unpleasant. Rather I believe we need to change our attitude towards things that we initially labeled under the Burden of Should. Instead of feeling like we should be doing something, we need to want to do that thing for its own sake. We must transform statements like, “I should be studying” to “I want to be studying.” “I should finish that work” to “I want to finish that work.” “I should be more sensitive to my partner’s needs” to “I want to be more sensitive to my partner’s needs.” This subtle shift in how we phrase our statements can create dramatic shifts in our perception and interpretation of events and make life more fulfilling.
If all we have is the present moment, why expend the mental energy living with the Burden of Should. Just think how much happier we could be if we took great pleasure in everything we did. If we never felt like we should be doing anything, but truly wanted to do everything. Then every moment of everyday can be filled with joy and delight. No longer will we need to feel guilty thoughts that we should be doing something else. The truth is that there is nothing else. This is what I’m doing now, and I’m doing it because I really want to be doing it. When I’m sitting in the park, the only thing I should be doing is enjoying sitting in the park. It’s so simple that we often fail to grasp its importance. As yogi Ram Das said, “Be Here Now”.
So this is my recommendation. The next time you catch yourself saying, “I should…” stop and reexamine your statement. Consider the reasons for doing or not doing said action. If you determine that it is truly something that must be done, then shift your attitude from “I should…” to “I want to…” “I’d love to…” “I would take great delight in doing…” If you are mindful and put care into what you doing, you might find that this task is actually more enjoyable than you first imagined. The more you do this, the easier it becomes. Slowly you can stop trying to avoid the unavoidable, and in doing so, you free yourself form the Burden of Should.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
Thoughtless Minds - Refashioned
While nearly drowning in my own sea of thoughts (that would be quite a way to go), a thought emerged that stated thinking is not the answer. This was quite a peculiar thought, I thought to myself, sort of like a stop codon in a transcribing RNA. Such a self-sacrificing thought says nothing lies ahead, terminate thinking process here. So I did what any sensible person would do, I obeyed the thought which told me to stop thinking. And there among the sunshine and sands of a pristine Thai beach, I tried my hardest to suspend all thought and just be.
This is not the first time I’ve stopped thinking. In fact I do it quite regularly when I’m meditating or exercising. The truth is that cultures have been cultivating the art of “non-thought” for centuries. Meditation centers around the practice of moving beyond the thinking mind to a state of higher awareness. Similarly, Taoism and the Kabbalah teach that we should strive to flow mindlessly in the currents of life. Despite such traditions, the ethos of Western society places such a tremendous value upon thinking, specifically scientific, analytical thought, that we often overlook the benefits of a thoughtless mind. Although we might take a long stroll to “clear our head”, such acts of thoughtlessness are scarcely scattered between our preferred mode of operating--utilizing the medium of thoughts. Just listen to our language. “Let me think it over and get back to you.” “I’d like to share a few thoughts.” “Oh, how thoughtful of you.” In today's world if you don’t bother to think about it, you may as well forget it all together.
In a similar vein, Eric Weiner the author of the wonderfully witty travelogue The Geography of Bliss, describes himself as a thoughtful person prone to fall into the trap of thinking just to avoid idleness. In a chapter he wrote while (coincidentally) in Thailand, he discloses: “I’ve spent most of my life trying to think my way to happiness, and my failure to achieve that goal only proves, in my mind, that I’m not a good enough thinker. It never occurred to me that the source of my unhappiness is not flawed thinking, but thinking itself.”
Sometimes thinking, or more likely over-thinking and over-analyzing are sources of discontent themselves. For that reason, I’d like to make a plea for all the over-thinkers in the world to occasionally let it go. Just live without questioning, scrutinizing, and evaluating every act of living. Be aware of how this state of being makes your feel, but please try not to think about it.
At this point some of you who have read my first post may point out that the initial reason for naming this blog Thoughtless Minds was to mock the thoughtless existence our routinized, mechanized, and computerized society. If anything I was proposing that we need to do more thinking, not less. However I was specifically advocating deep thinking about human nature, consciousness, and how we can evolve to become better people. Such meaningful discourse is much different than the typical superficial thinking that society promotes. Thus I am not reneging my initial words, simply amending them.
I have come to recognize that analytical thought can only take us so far. While thinking is a wonderful place to begin dissecting and illuminating difficult questions, there are times when we are prone to drown in our own analysis and must stop, step back, and let the situation rest. These moments of thoughtlessness are often moments of intense creativity and enlightenment. Thus a truly wise person understands that the balance between a thoughtful and a thoughtless mind is an essential part of achieving what can be called nothing else than peace of mind.
So if possible, the next time you find yourself in a state of frustration, confusion, or despair, don’t try to think it through, but do as a Taoist sage would and try being without thought. Ted Kardash writes in his online reader on Taoism, “We must learn to rely on more than just our intellect and logical mind to gather and assess information. We [should] develop and trust our intuition as our direct connection to the Tao. [When] we heed the intelligence of our whole body, not only our brain…we get action that is spontaneous, natural, and effortless.” This is the highest aim of a Thoughtless Mind: acting so naturally that no thought is required.
Go forth and don't think about living without thinking. Embrace contradiction. Love paradox.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
The Human Antipathy to Change: The Mind's Search for Meaning
If you had to describe what was going on in this picture, what would you say? Most Westerners, who are used to seeing boxlike architectural structures, interpret the picture as a family sitting indoors. They see the shape above the woman’s head as a window with a view of plants outside. However, when scientists showed this sketch to certain East African peoples, they all assumed that the shape above the woman’s head was a box or metal object that she was balancing. Moreover they thought the family was sitting under a tree since their culture contained few visual cues to indicate perpendicular walls. Whose interpretation is correct? I would aver that they both are.
To be fair, the rational, analytic mindset the has predominate the last few hundred years was and is an invaluable asset to our growth and evolution. It took us through an incredible period of science and empiricism which served humanity in countless ways. But as I have quoted before, the problems of the world today cannot be solved at the level of thought which created them. I'm almost certian we cannot take the next step towards a brighter future if we have people who cannot think outside the confines of their inherited worldview.

A lot of ideas have been tossed around (since I'm prone to digress when excited), so let me reiterate the main point in different words. Our conscious mind is designed to see just one version of reality. The version of the world we see is a product of our genetics and our unique experience: our culture, our early childhood relationships, our values, our learned responses, our semantic knowledge, etc. The diagram at right illustrates our worldview as an onion with different layers that shape our perception and understanding of reality. This onion, which we’ve built up throughout the course of our lives, is the world as we know it; it is what we see and practice day by day. Moreover, it is how we know the world (i.e. how we relate to the thoughts and feelings that run through us.) This onion is our comfort zone, our familiar ways of being. And while our onion worldview will always be undergoing some mutation and change, there’s nothing more threatening than peeling away its layers thereby tearing down the matrix that grants us a first person experience of reality. To protect our onion (our worldview, our ego, our consciousness perception of reality,) we tend towards stasis over variance and seek to preserve the status quo rather than include difference and unfamiliarity. It is easier to accept the one story we've been told since birth than embrace a new one. This is self-preservation on the mental level.
Saturday, October 31, 2009
The Human Antipathy to Change (part 2)
“How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?
So why is this “psychological inertia” so important; moreover, where does it come from? Well, Newton ascribed inertia as a property of matter back in 1687, and the last time I checked inertia still exists and we are just highly organized lumps of matter. Hence, there’s no reason inertia should not hold true for our thoughts and behaviors, especially if we accept the modern scientific paradigm that the brain is the physical seat and/or correlate of the mind (a quandary which is still hotly debated.) Nonetheless, there are many other reasons why our minds resist change, mostly having to do with the very function of the mind itself. So to help understand the nature of the beast in question please click the link and check out the famous turning dancer illusion .
What do you see? Is the dancer turning clockwise or counterclockwise?
Optical illusions like this are perhaps the best examples of how our minds shape reality: how our unique worldview adds that all-so-important layer of meaning to otherwise meaningless stimuli. The spinning dancer effectively shows us that our experience of reality (i.e. how we see the world) is more of an inventive synthesis than a passive intake of an objective “out there” world. In other words, what a thing is is to an unknowable extent determined or influenced by what we think it is. In the dancer example, the external stimuli never changes, yet a simple internal shift in thinking creates an entirely new reality, one where the women is spinning in the complete opposite direction!
Like in the young woman/old lady illusion, a change in what we see is caused by an unconscious paradigm shift, a Eureka! moment that restructures our representation of the world. I say unconscious because most of the framework which structures our reality is neatly tucked below our awareness, yet it is possible to bring aspects of this scaffolding into conscious deliberation.
Go look at the dancer again. Now look away for a moment and imagine her spinning in the opposite direction. Can you make her change directions? Can your formative powers of imagination will her into rotating to your liking? Doing so requires a top-down change of your mental precept, something that is difficult but certainly not impossible.
In his fabulous book “A Crack in the Cosmic Egg”, Joseph Chilton Pearce describes this phenomenon as Metanoia from the Greek word for conversion. He says,
“Metanoia is the process by which concepts are reorganized. It is a specialized, intensified adult form of the same world-view developing found shaping the mind of an infant. It proves to be the way by which all genuine education takes place…As we change our inherited representations of the world, the world we deal with changes accordingly.”Metanoia is the intuitive, catalytic mode of consciousness that allows us to reshape our thoughts and behaviors; and if strengthened and enriched, it can provide the basis for transcending the logical confines of our culturally accepted world view and push our consciousness into new uncharted territories.
Pearce claims that metanoia is the key to creative thinking. In fact he claims all great scientific discoveries from the illumination of E=MC2 to the double-helix postulate are a result of this freely-synthesizing aspect of mind which is untrammeled by harsh realities and cultural impediments. In other words, most significant "discoveries" or breakthroughs have occurred via this opening of mind to encompass possibility beyond what is considered feasible by our reality-adjusted, social thinking. Only by transcending the logical barriers of our mental constructs can we introduce a new way of "seeing" the world. As I've said before, a new way of "seeing" is not only the end goal of personal change but is absolutely necessary if we wish move beyond the limitations of our inherited egocentric existence and evolve into higher levels of consciousness.
The above discussion is meant to exemplify three things: Firstly that our first-person experience of reality is a synthetic process of mind, secondly that our mental constructs limit our interpretation of events to the exclusion of other possibilities (which is why we can’t see the dancer spinning both ways at once), and thirdly that these selective interpretations are arbitrary and can in fact be altered through metanoia, a process of radical reorganization. What does this all have to do with change? Well, as we asserted before, personal change is fundamentally a process of altering one’s mental landscape. Changing ourselves, our attitudes is simply a process of making the dancer rotate in a new direction. Of course large overarching change is more difficult to bring about because we are dealing with complicated, ingrained structures of mind; nevertheless, the fundamental process of reconfiguration is the same.
Hopefully, I’ve elucidated the influence of unconscious factors in how we perceive reality and shown the process by which changing our constructs of reality can occur. In the next post I will to go into more detail about why changing our interpretation of the world is so difficult. I ask and answer what makes our worldview so fundamentally averse to change, and what can we do about it.
Monday, October 26, 2009
Hypocrisy & the Human Antipathy to Change (pt. 1)
We are all hypocrites. Show me someone who practices what they preach to a “T”, and I’ll show you a hippogryph playing chess with a unicorn. There’s no avoiding hypocrisy; the chasm between what we say and what we do is an elemental part of the human condition. It is rooted in our split-mind: the bifurcation of reality between conscious and unconscious activity.
Jung and other depth psychologists have called the split of consciousness from unconsciousness the culprit of all human troubles, the “fall” in mythological terms. Everything from our impulse purchases to cheating on our diets exemplify our inability to shake-off the unconscious emotional urges that lay below the limen of awareness. Think about how many times we did something we know we shouldn’t have done or simply said yes when we really meant no? The answer is more often than we’d like to admit.
I recognize that there are many situations where we feel coerced to act a certain way, or at least the circumstances makes choosing another alternative impossible. However, even if we had the freedom to choose otherwise, would we? I’m not so sure and if you keep reading, you might agree. Also please note I’m using “we” since I am in no way above such insincere behavior. Moreover, I am convinced that most of us want to change in all the right ways. We want to be good people. We don’t want to be a slave to our primitive drives. We want to be transformed; and as a result, all this hypocrisy makes us uncomfortable.
Author Joesph Chilton Pierce describes the situation as an “underlying desperation in us, unstated and inchoate, that is nothing less than a split mind’s realization of its split world.” We long for a way out, yet we typically remedy this situation by lying to ourselves, feigning authenticity, and repenting when our behavior seems out of line. Sure this might assuage some negative self-talk and ameliorate cognitive dissonance, but does it really accomplish anything? No, the heart of the situation remains unchanged.
Let me use myself as an example. I have proselytized the need to live by one’s principles, be more real, more genuine. I’ve even touted myself as a free-spirit, open to experience, willing to go beyond a personal ego-centered worldview and embrace a globally-minded compassion. While my friends and family probably take my words to heart, little do they know that despite my self-assured talk, the very next moment I go and cower in my insular routine perpetuating all the things I say I’m not. We often make highfalutin claims about the things which we find ourselves most unable to change. Meanwhile our hypocrisy stares at us like a white elephant in the room.
I feel we make excuses that life is too busy, too complicated, and too problematic to do the inner work necessary to bring about change. We assume that if all the external obstacles to self-actualization are removed, we would soar into our fullest potential. Moreover, we take the misguided attitude that such hypocritical behavior is inescapable in today’s society.
A few weeks ago at my University’s conference on forging an ecological mindset through literature, the lunch break consisted of red meat on Styrofoam plates. I thought to myself “this is all wrong”, but what could I do? I could just not eat. Problem solved. But of course I gobbled away since ignoring a table full of free food would break with every survival instinct I have. I justified my behavior by saying that the next time I would act perfectly in accordance with what I know and believe to be right. Though I might say this with an air of certainty, deep down my heart is unconvinced—this is the realization of the split-mind: hypocrisy manifest.
I’m sure every one of us has had a similar experience. Whether it be a small thing like throwing a piece of litter into the street or a large thing like learning to act less selfishly, we all have personal issues we wish to improve. So I ask, what is holding us back from making the changes we want to make, from wholeheartedly adopting the worldview we wish to uphold?
What is holding us back? The answer to the question is plain and simple: it is not “them” or society, but ourselves, our ego, our unwillingness to let go of what is familiar, comfortable, and easy. This is the stark truth most of us are unable to accept.
We wish to shift to locus of control to an external power, but in reality we are the only ones to fault. For when it comes to achieving our higher self-evolution, most of us don’t want to change. Sure, we want things to change: we want to feel better, be happier, and have an easier life. But we do not want to have to change our deep habits of being, our habits of relating to others or identifying with the thoughts and feelings that run through us. Very few of us want to let go of the familiar ways of being and behaving that we’re accustomed to. Why? Simply put, because we do not want to get out of our comfort zone.
We all want to do what is best for the environment, for humanity, for the planet; but will you exchange your car for a bicycle? No. Will you give up your favorite food because farming it creates ecological havoc, emits greenhouse gasses, and causes needless animal suffering? No. Will we only change if the pain of not changing becomes worse that the pain of change itself? Yes.
I use the ecological example not because I’m a tree-hugging eco-nut, but simply because it clearly demonstrates how our desire to change typically cedes authority to a greater desire for maintaining comfort. Bringing about true fundamental change in our behavior, our worldview, is an extremely difficult process requiring extraordinary effort. Some people, I dare say, are even incapable of such change, having not the interiority or knowledge necessary to begin reformulating their behaviors and beliefs about reality. Others who have the genuine desire to change still may never achieve the transformation they desire because there is a host of other factors keeping our behavior and worldview static.
Change is uncomfortable, awkward, and perhaps even painful; but I believe it is absolutely necessary if we want to progress and thrive. As Einstein famously said, “the significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.” We need a new way of thinking and a thorough understanding of the human antipathy towards change. In the coming posts I hope to expound in greater detail the dynamics which inhibit deep-seated change and theorize a new path for evolving past our “split-mind” archaic way of life.